Focusing on instantaneous results heightens self-imposed pressure. We can’t mess up because we need to exude flawless strength so we can lead and win, now. Caught in the short game, we become more easily frustrated with our losses, mistakes, relationships (or lack thereof), our jobs, our pay, our…whatever it is we don’t have that we think we want.
Focusing on the short-game, may seem more pleasurable. But what it’s really doing is setting us up for long-term pain. It’s like an addiction. We need and more and more instant gratification to sustain our sense of enough-ness and purpose. Or rather fill a void that only these two things can fill. The long game is your purpose which brings you your sense of enough-ness. The long-game is the meaning and magic in life. The long-game is living.


  If you haven’t already noticed, your skin takes a hit when you’re stressed.  Anecdotally we’ve known this for centuries, but western science is just starting to discover the reasons behind the mind-body connection. From what we know now, a lot of it has to do with hormones. Yes, those sensitive, sometimes pesky, not-so-little, Read More


Tomorrow, June 1, we’ll be halfway through 2017. Reality check time. How are you doing with that New Year’s resolution of yours? Is it a bit dusty? Did you toss it in the recycling bin back in February to save it for next year?

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No matter how much you want the results of regular exercise, motivation yourself to start can be hard. Keeping yourself motivated can, at times, seem equally challenging. So how do you do it? How do you motivate yourself to start and stick with the actions that get you the desired results? Here are five tips.


Remember “brave” is a verb. Verb. Action. Do. Doing is more actionable than being. Being implies you’ve already reached something that is permanent; when are you ever permanently anything? Never.


Let’s start by getting real: Shit happens. Big or small, personal or professional, spiritual, or physical or financial…Any area of your life can be hit with adversity. And that’s a good thing, if you’re brave enough to look at it this way. Adversity, however big or small, is a chance for you to strengthen, Read More


Staying constantly plugged into your work can backfire. Even constantly plugging into digital devices for play, like social media and phone games, can backfire. Your brain and body can take a toll, from decision fatigue to chronic stress and all the health effects that those bring. On Jan. 1, a law went into effect in France referred to as the “right to disconnect,” aimed at reducing, at least, the work-related constant connection.


Why is one of the most powerful words in the English language, in my opinion. Everything starts with why: your actions, your thoughts, your words, your motivations…all of it can be explained by simply asking and answering why. The word is so provoking, actors spend days, weeks, months even years dissecting the “why’s” behind their characters’ movements, speeches, and inner dialogue. If they do this for a fake person, why aren’t you doing it for the most important person– you?


It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, even to our past selves or a future vision we have of ourselves. Such comparisons can be helpful, even healthy. But they can also contribute to lower self-esteem and increased depression, anxiety, and jealousy. So how do we strike the balance? And if we’re in a negative social comparison funk, how do we pull ourselves out?


If we want to improve our digestion, hydration, potential weight loss, satiety, and enjoyment of our food, we should slow down and chew. Some food digestion begins as soon as you put it in your mouth; foods that are called carbohydrates (fruit, veggies, pasta, bread, candy, etc) start to break down as soon as you take a bite because of an enzyme in your saliva. The less you chew, the less time this enzyme has to start breaking things down.